How to Include Family and Friends in Your Elopement
Arizona Elopement Photographer
I think a lot of people feel torn between two equally important forces in their lives. “I would love to elope, but I can’t imagine getting married without my parents there.”
Friends. You can have both! If having to pick between having your family present or having the wedding day of your dreams is breaking your heart YOU DON’T HAVE TO PICK. You can have it all! There are ways so that neither of those very important things get left out. It may take some compromise and flexibility but you don’t have to sacrifice one for the other. Here are some of my favorite ideas that allow you to have the adventure of a lifetime and still elope with your family and friends.
1) …INVITE THEM!!
I know. Crazy, right? But this is a totally doable thing. Have an adventure wedding in your favorite place with a handful of those nearest and dearest to you. You are 100% allowed to do this! Thare are SO MANY epic places in this crazy world of ours that will allow for you to have your friends and family present. Picture this:
You wake up in an adorable airbnb with all your favorite people. You start the day with a hike, or a morning coffee on the deck with your besties. You get ready at your pace, following whatever traditions you want. Maybe you get ready in the same room as your partner. Maybe you save it for the first look. Your family and friends are there for all the love and laughs and hugs.
Then you pile out of the airbnb into a bus/jeep rentals and caravan to your ceremony destination. Maybe it’s on a cliff’s edge, or on a desert vista, or in an alpine meadow. You and your fam take a mini hike together to that perfect spot and there in the best wild place, with the people that made you clustered around, you say your vows and promise yourself to your person. Champagne is popped, tears are shed, and joy spills out into everywhere.
With arms slung around shoulders you head back to your transportation of choice and go to an EPIC party. A picnic, or a bbq, or a gourmet meal served family style on picnic tables with fairy lights strung overhead. You dance and drink under the stars.
See? Can totally have it all, if having it all is what you want. Eloping with your family is totally possible.
2) Elopement Ceremony with Friends+Family Bash Right After
So with this options, you elope somewhere rad where you say your vows just the two of you, plan an epic party with your nearest and dearest right after. This is basically a variation of the above option, only for this one, it’s just the two of you for your vows. Maybe your vows are really personal and it’s really important that it just be the two of you.
Or perhaps there is one aboslute-no-negotiations place you want to say your vows and it is simply not very accessible. Maybe the fact you’re getting married on a group vacation is actually a surprise! Whatever the reason, this is a fun combo of having a ceremony that’s private and personal while being able to celebrate immediately with your friends and family.
3) Hometown Reception Bash
This is another variation of the above option. (Sensing a theme here?) This is a great choice for those of you wheres shipping all your fave people out to your elopement location is simply not an option. With this type of set up, you get to elope and celebrate in private, and afterwards go home and have a KILLER party to celebrate.
If you chose this option you can always share photos at the party, re-read your vows, or show a video of you chose to have a videographer present. This way your friends and family can feel as though they were a part of your wedding day without them actually *being there* on your elopement day.
4) Use FaceTime or Skype
Technology, it can be a glorious thing. Some couples chose to share their joy by calling or skyping their family right after their ceremony. Of course you need to be a place that allows for cell service to accomplish this (though calling them once you’re back in service is always an option, too.) This way you can feel close to your family and they can feel included, but you can still have all the privacy in the world.
5) Write Letters or Record Video Messages
How about you and your fam write letters or record video messages for each other! (so they give you letters, and you write them letters and/or record a message for them after your vows). This is a great option if cell service is not a thing you will have or are you are worried about potential services problems. Families will often write letters or record videos/toasts for the happy couple.
Imagine enjoying a picnic in an alpine meadow while watching a toast that your family prepared for you on your cell. You can even clink your champagne glasses to your phone. This is a very sweet option, and has the added benefit of being something you can keep after the elopement day to watch whenever you want.
And your family get’s something, too! You can always record a video to share with your family when you get home, or you can write letters of your own that they can read on your elopement day.
So there you have it! I hope if anything, this helps with the idea that you have to pick between your family and your dreams; you don’t have to. There’s more than one way to elope (and in fact, there’s no “right way” to elope) so you get to decide what your day looks like. Heck, you may think of an option that’s not even listed here! I want to empower you to do what makes sense to you and feels right. And if that means eloping with your family and friends in tow, then that’s what I want for you, too 🙂